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A shipping meme

Stolen from everyone on the internet! Pick a number and I will tell you things about my shipping preferences (or try to tell you things about my shipping preferences, for I am a gen fic fangirl). But don't pick the ones I've marked out. I actually can't answer those.

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1. Talk about the first ship you ever had.

2. Talk about three of the most important ships throughout your life.

3. What’s your current OTP?

4. What’s your current NOTP?

5. Do you have any poly ships?

6. How do you feel about love triangles?

7. How do you feel about RPF?

8. Have you ever shipped yourself with a character?

9. Do you have many ships that never got together at all?

10. Do you ship any characters that have never met?

11. Talk about your favorite first kiss.

12. Have you ever been disappointed when your ship finally got together?

13. Has a ship ever broken your heart?

14. How do you feel about will they/won’t they?

15. Have you ever “shipped at first sight”?

16. Talk about a ship you initially disliked.

17. Talk about a pairing you’ve stopped shipping romantically.

18. Talk about a moment which made you question an entire ship.

19. Have you ever shipped something despite yourself?

20. Talk about a ship you feel alone in shipping.

21. Is there a ship you just don’t get, but have nothing against?

22. Which of your ships have the best chemistry?

23. Which of your ships deserve better writing?

24. Do you mostly ship canon pairings?

25. Have you ever shipped a pairing before you even started watching the show/movie simply because of gifs and graphics or similar?

26. Have you noticed a pattern in your shipping? Is there a romantic dynamic you’re more drawn to?

27. Is there a ship you’ve shipped for most of your life?

28. Does shipping come easily to you?

29. Do you need to ship something to really enjoy a movie/book/tv show/comic?

30. Name a couple of fandoms in which you have no ships.

31. Talk about one of your favorite headcanons for a ship you love.

32. Share five must-read fics.

33. Name your favorite fanartist(s).

34. Share your favorite fanmix for your OTP.

35. Recommend 1-5 shipper blogs.


36. Do you create fanmixes/gif sets/fanart/fic/fanvids and so on for your ships?

37. Do you have a favorite trope and/or AU for your OTP?

38. Do you like and use ship names?

39. Is there a fictional relationship you’d really want for yourself?

40. If you could change one thing about your OTP, what would that be?
Back in my Star Trek days, my habit was to put together random people who had nothing to do with each other in canon, like Gaila and Sulu. I loved the challenge of creating a relationship from scratch. These days, I do that less - I think because I have pretty strong shipping preferences in MCU, like Tony/Pepper and Clint/Natasha. A common thread all the way from STXI until now is that I'm drawn to couples who have complicated relationships -- probably because I'm married to someone who is completely different from me, and we had to work through some really huge problems in the first few years we were together. There were times when people told me that I was in an unhealthy relationship, or tried to remind me that love isn't enough to make something work. Seven years in, I think I won those arguments. Because of those experiences, I'm really drawn to couples like Amanda and Sarek who have to work out huge intercultural differences, and Clint and Natasha who have traumatized pasts and don't know how to let their guard down, and Veronica and Logan who have to overcome their complicated history and their own personal flaws. Tony and Pepper are probably my ultimate OTP because they have a dynamic that looks flawed and possibly unhealthy on the outside, but the only reason that either of them would be willing to put up with that level of conflict is that they have something truly precious. I've never bought the claim that established relationships are boring; I think the way that people work through problems together is endlessly fascinating.

Which is probably a much longer answer than you asked for, but I couldn't help myself :)

Edited at 2014-09-07 11:27 pm (UTC)
Actually, I adore this answer, and have tucked it into my How To Write files. And I SO TOTALLY AGREE that established relationships, being living and dynamic things, are fascinating.
RPF squicks me pretty hard. It's kind of the same way that I can't look at paparazzi photos of my favorite actors. It feels like an intrusion into someone's life. Which is not a value judgment on anyone who enjoys RPF; it's just how it feels to me. The one exception was that I read a whole lot of Johnny Weir figure skating RPF during the 2010 Olympics. He seemed like the kind of guy who wanted people to write erotic fanfic about him.
Well, I'm on a huge Veronica Mars kick right now, so my current favorite first kiss is Logan/Veronica. Their first kiss in the series was completely unexpected, yet it also made total sense. Plus it was so passionate! And their first kiss in the new movie was beautiful too.

S3 of Sherlock ruined Sherlock/John for me. Although John marrying a woman was certainly inconvenient for my shipping preferences, the moment that really broke me came much before that. When they're on the train, and Sherlock manufactures a life-threatening situation just to get John to admit his feelings...ugh. At that point, it was no longer possible for me to believe they could have a healthy relationship.
I've not seen any Veronica Mars yet, but I will add it to my list.

I agree with you about Sherlock. We all knew he was a git, but that tube scene was so deliberately hurtful, it broke Sherlock as a character. I just pretend I haven't seen S3, it's been deleted ;)
Laughing at your Johnny Weir comment -- if he hasn't discovered fanfic about him (and I wouldn't be surprised if he has!), I think he'd be tickled by it. :)
Is changing the plot of an entire movie too big to constitute as one thing? Because I love Tony/Pepper, but IM3 did not work well for me as a shipper. The whole plot is basically Pepper as a damsel, and then she did some violence at the end so the filmmakers could pretend to be progressive. I would really have loved to see Tony and Pepper working together to solve the problem.
I like that she abhorred the violence that she ended up causing (IM4 better get Rescue in there), but to me that was more of 'things we break up over because that's a fundamentally different thing' than 'things that make our relationship stronger'.

Also, I feel that her being the utmost love of his life, he would have involved her in his healing process a little more, especially once the armor went haywire.
Hmm...I'm not sure I could say that any ship has been important to my life per se (I mean, that's pretty huge to say something is important in your whole life), but I can name three that matter to me!

-Dumbledore/Grindelwald was only implied by canon, but as a queer person, it meant a lot to me when JKR said that Dumbledore is gay and that he was involved with Grindelwald. I feel like I've read/watched lots of material where gay relationships are implied, but the creator won't go the extra mile to actually say that those people are gay. That this happened in a children's literature series is especially important to me because it normalizes the concept of gayness even for very young readers. Plus, the whole ship is so tragic!

-Amanda/Sarek. I've said this upthread already, but I'm married to someone who is very, very different from me. The first years of our relationship were plagued by conflict, to the point that some of my friends questioned why we were together or told me they thought I was in an unhealthy relationship. I wrote most of my Amanda/Sarek while my husband (then my boyfriend) and I were working through pretty big issues. Those stories are all about communicating with someone whose needs are very different from yours, and I think writing them helped me get closure on some of our conflicts.

-Han/Leia. I shipped them before I knew what shipping was. (I was five when I saw Star Wars for the first time.) Obviously, at the time, I didn't have any words for romance, but for some reason, I just kept watching their kiss in Empire Strikes Back over and over and over again. Leia was always an important character to me. I was the girl who always watched "boy" cartoons because I liked action and adventure, and I'd be so disappointed that the girl characters never got to do anything. Leia was the antidote to all of that, and I think I loved her relationship with Han in part because it validated the idea that the bad ass girl could get the sexy, bad ass guy.
My NOTP is Tony/anyone who isn't Pepper. Although I don't think IM3 did their relationship justice, I do think that Pepper is the love of Tony's life. He was obviously hung up on her for years before they got together, and when he fucks up in IM3, he's obviously really distressed by it. I just don't buy that he wants to be with anyone but her.

I don't know that I feel alone in shipping anyone, honestly. I do like some weird ships, like Maria Hill/Nick Fury and Joan Watson/Marcus Bell. Luckily, I have a fabulous flist that reads all the weird pairings I write, and sometimes even writes them for me.
I like that take on a NOTP. While I don't read their relationship that way (possibly the way IM3 ended up working, which is unfortunate), I really like that you do. :D

And yay for weird and rare ships! Even when people don't ship the same rare/weird ship, I do, it's enough to know that other people ship weird/rare things themselves lol